Rio to Saifai: Bend it(Gender) like Sindhu

After Sakshi Malik broke the jinx and India got its first medal of ongoing Rio Olympics in form of a bronze in wrestling, P. V. Sindhu won a Silver medal for India on 19th August, the first one by any Indian woman athlete and best so far by an Indian in this Olympics. Everybody is celebrating the victory as that of whole of India and is raising a toast to the girl-power. Exactly 4 days ago on 15th August in Saifai, Etawah the native village of the Chief Minister of Uttar Pradesh, I was engaged in fruit distributions to the patients of the Saifai medical college  and was doing a round of the hospital with the Vice Chancellor and rest of the team.

In the course of my round, I came across a bed in a female ward on which a lady was lying on the bed in sort of silent mode with her head covered(symbol of a lady who has delivered a baby recently). Just beside her, was a cradle having two sweet little baby girls. Attracted by the beauty and Godliness of twin little fairies, I stopped by to have a closer look. An elder woman was sitting nearby and I asked about the babies. She was not enthused by my queries and said in a resigned tone that those two 6 days old girls had followed another baby girl born to same mother earlier and therefore now they had three daughters. She was having a very long face and took a deep breath after sharing with me this anguish laden information. I looked at the mother who was also not very happy and was not radiating any happiness or cheerfulness despite delivering safely two little princesses. I was non-plussed at their reactions and tried to cheer them up by saying that those two and the first one would not only bring glory to the family, but also take care of the parents when they are old. But as we have seen in our society often, my words could not bring much cheer on the face of older lady or the mother herself. She was getting influenced by the reactions of her near and dear ones. The little princesses on the other hand who were just 6 days old were sleeping with a smile on their faces and were oblivious to the sheepish reactions of the world outside. I don’t think I have seen more beautiful creation of God in last few years( my sweet daughter is 17 and the younger son is 14 already). I just smiled at the twins and prayed God for taking good care of those two angels.

Now as the whole nation is celebrating the victories of our two daughters at Olympics, I am rewinding my experience at the hospital on the 70th Independence Day. Have we still not matured as society or nation? I think we(India) have miles to go before we can sleep. India(we) has to do a lot to come out of sick slumber of the male bias. Thank you Sakshi and Sindhu for showing to us all, that Girls are better if not equal to sons. Long Live Olympics. I hope that mother of Saifai hospital would be more proud of her  twin angels four days after 70th Independence Day.

The Week 33 at Saifai

Saifai Medical University

Saifai Medical University

Knowing fully well that I would be a forced bachelor for next few months at least, I landed at Saifai, Etawah in the 1st week of Aug’16 as the Registrar of just notified U P University of Medical Sciences. Since my kids were studying at Lucknow, I was hesitant to start with but did not have many choices either. I had to prepare myself to live alone. In Lucknow, with college days and in job friends and family around I was obviously more than busy. Now I had to shift 260 Km north-west of Lucknow. I had the idea that in an educational institute, one can have a good volume of free time beyond regular office hours of 9 to 5 pm. It was aware that in a smallish town like Saifai(A Gram Panchayat still) where you would not find time-consuming trappings (including that of travelling to office and back eating up two hours every day) of any big city, I would have to devise new ways to utilise my time and my energy in a more productive way.

So after settling in this week, I focussed on reading as much as I could and watching as little idiot box as possible. I had my cook Daulat Ram and one more to take good care of me. While packing my bag for Saifai, I had stuffed plenty of books to go through and a 4G connection for navigating smoothly through the online world of some great stuff over You Tube. So I downloaded the videos of well-known writers and their talks recorded at various platforms and universities globally and started listening  to them one by one in absolutely peaceful surroundings of a rural India. I had a good time over last 6 days and am eager to share my learnings over my 2nd week in Saifai and week 33 of Gregorian Calender;

  1. I started with the talks of 2002 Nobel Prize winner, Daniel Kahneman. His book ‘Thinking Fast and Slow’ is a marvellous book. He narrates the most obvious and easy examples of many mental traps and fallacies like ‘Regression to Means’, and ‘Less is More’ and ‘conjunction’ and ‘Narrative Fallacies’ who comprise our capacity to think logically. His ideas of fast-moving and life saving ‘System 1’ and most logical  and analytical ‘System 2’ are bang on target. This book coming out of almost half a century of writer’s psychological research is the only book in my life which started reading again on the day I finished it for the first time. This is addictive. Beware. You will be sucked in to it if you could survive first few pages.
  2. Next, I went through the lectures of a young balding Yuval Noah Harari. He has authored a top notch best seller ‘Sapiens’. It narrates the story of growth of humans over 70000 years and the way we have progressed by developing believable stories like Money or Economy or Family or Human Rights. He says thousands of years ago we were no better than say a Chimpanzee but soon Homo-Sapiens learned to work together by agreeing on few stories and promising returns in the future in lieu of their sacrifices on the day. He says 100 or even a 100000 men can work together but 100 chimpanzees who may be physically more powerful can not develop a common narrative to rely on and therefore sapiens won the race to prosper and therefore we are now 7 Billion and more while thousands and thousands of animal species are getting gobbled up by the sapiens induced growth. His most interesting talks available on you tube are one of the most original way of seeing ourselves. His idea of ‘Data-Religion’ is most interesting and seems to be believable. A must watch and must Read.
  3. I also went through lectures of  Sadhguru who in his inimitable style presents most coherent explanations of various events of life. If you listen to him regularly, you don’t need to go to any scripture to deconstruct the myths of life. He is too good. Gets you peaceful.
  4. I started reading the just released  book, ‘A feast of Vultures’ by ‘The Hindu’ journalist, Josy Joseph. He writes about endemic corruption and minces no words in exposing the nouveau rich and even corrupt journalists. The book is an authentic expose of every day scams of India and corrupt-to-the-core-systems well protected bt the illegitimate beneficiaries. More on this next week.
  5. I went through the talks of Guru Charan Das, ex CEO of P&G turned author of ‘The Difficulty of Being Good’. I had written my first impressions of the book in my initial blog writings last year. He narrates the right perspective of ‘Dharma’, which he gained by studying  Sanskrit at University of Chicago. A good take on mythology and history of India.
  6. I stumbled upon ‘The Theory of Minimalism’ and ‘100 things challenge’ to appreciate the fact that what we have is perhaps 100 times more than what we actually need to live which in turn leads to subjugation of even those 1 percent needs in favour of those amassed but useless 99 percent things. Authors Joshua Becker in his book ‘The More of Less’ has narrated the examples well. After going through his talks, I feel motivated enough to de-clutter my life as well. I will follow it up.
  7.  I heard Ram Chandra Guha on ‘Makers of Modern India’ and various fault lines plaguing India. He talks on the basis of solid historical evidences and demolishes hearsay on many issues like Nehru-Patel Rivalry. He explains the great tradition of leaders of that time where the most opposite of political rivals like Ambedkar or Shyama Prasad Mukherjee coming together for a better and stable India. He extols then leadership’s vision in readiness to adopt concept of Linguistic States in 1956 vis-a-vis Ceylon’s Single Language(Sinhalese) policy in the same year leading to decades long eventual civil war in island nation and rise of LTTE. He also reveals many fault lines of modern India including those of; attacks from left and right of ideologies; the damages to environmental legacy and marginalisation of weaker sections and schedules tribes and vices like fractured polity.
  8. I chanced upon a repeat watch of ‘Tanu Weds Manu Returns’ as a free showcase movie. The movie running on perhaps the best up to now performance of Kangana Ranaut is a real treat to watch. The movie set up in Kanpur, has believable characters and touches the life of all married couples who  have vouched for ‘7 Janmon ka Saath’! Tanu Trivedi and Datto Sangwan are hilarious in their own rights. I loved the movie. It deserves a one more watch perhaps.
  9. As an icing on the cake, I clocked a neat 36 Km by brisk walking everyday 6 am to 7 am at sports stadium, Saifai. I think by using good quality sports facilities in this village I made it an eventful week. My Map-My-Walk app has never been busier.

So, this is what I did this week. The week 33. Do I need to do more in a week?